Of the ten fertilized eggs, eight were continuing to grow. We chose to transfer one 8 cell grade 1 embryo and one 7 cell grade 1 embryo.
There are still 3 more 7 cell grade 1 embryos, and three more below that, which we are going to grow for a few more days and freeze those that make it to blastocyst stage. It feels really reassuring to know that we might have some frozen embryos for future cycles.
I'm on couch rest for the next few days, and hope to have time to write up some of the many posts ruminating in my head.
This has been hard for ML, and I wish I knew what to do to be a better support to him. I spent a good portion of last year grieving our loss, but I think that this IVF process is making it all real for him and bringing up some of his grief now. He has always been scared about starting a family, and it is hard for me to know whether his expressions are of that fear or fear of our choice to use donor sperm. I know that everyone says that it does't matter when you finally meet your child, but I wish that I could hear those people talk more about the realities of this choice.
Wishing a big huge congratulations for Kakunna on the arrival of her Cricket. Her story has been a huge source of strength and inspiration for me.
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I am so excited for you...I have been on edge all day waiting to hear the good word about your transfer.
Stick embies, STICK! Your mama is ready for you.
Love you girl!
Best of luck, sounds like great numbers too.
Yeah, it must be a hard choice to have to deal with using donors or not. I think it's very brave and also an act of love and respect for each others dreams and wishes.
Hi love! I am so glad it went well! About the donor sperm...it is different for everyone, but when Hubby saw Cricket in person, all he said was, "i have a son." He is so in love with him, Foxy, and a sense of humor helps with any doubts. Maybe knowing that will help ML? Love you darling...all my sticky dust is yours.
Foxy I am so over the moon for you, it all sounds brilliant! And even some to make it on ice - even better.
Having faced donor sperm ourselves, I can relate to how hard this choice has been for you and how hard it must be to deal with it, especially for your hubby. Your hubby will love that child with all his heart, just you wait and see.
PUPO PUPO:) Now hurry up already beta draw! Enjoy resting on the couch.
Good luck!! My son is 3 and while we have a very odd situation right now the love that M has for Smooch is no different than my love for him. I'm not going to sugarcoat things-M still struggles with the idea that he couldn't "father" a child, but he never, ever questions that he is Smooch's father.
I'm so excited for you, Foxy, and I am wishing you so much luck. I want more than anything for you to have a happy ending to this wait. Fingers crossed!
Congrats on transfer!! Enjoy the rest!
I'm so happy you've got your little embies safe inside! And that you are feeling comfortable! Yay for a week of relaxation!
I wish I had words of wisdom as far as DH and the DS goes... But as you know, we're newly exploring all these feeling and emotions too. I've just made up my mind that I will not have "expectations" for how DH should handle this...So that times he's made positive comments have thrilled me... And the negative comments, well I just know he's working through a very complex issue that I can't do much besides love him and try to remain positive.
Looking forward to hearing how this week goes for you! Hugs!
great news on a smooth transfer.
I am sorry your husband is struggling right now. This is so complicated and I think ambivalence is to be expected. I think the best thing you can do is to continue to keep communication open and let him openly discuss his feelings (both good and bad). I think about this all the time, how different it is for men. we have this outlet- what do they have? would he consider therapy either couples or individual? It might be a good thing for him
sending love to you and your little embryos.
So glad the transfer went well!
Having to use donor eggs has caused me more than a little bit of emotional turmoil. I don't know that there is much any one can say to make me "feel better" about it....so I don't have advice on what you could tell your husband...other than to let him know how much you love him (which I am sure you are already doing). Hopefully when you get your BFP he will begin to realize that it doesn't matter that it isn't his sperm...it IS his baby that is growing inside you.
Thinking of you!
Enjoy relaxing on the couch for a few days, sending lots of luck and sticky baby vibes your way!
Good luck! Hope you have some sticky beans there!
I've been a horrid bloggy friend! I've been doing everything bloggish via iPhone and they JUST gave me the update on the google reader app that allows me to comment on your posts.
Anyway-- I am so excited everything is coming up and going so well for you. It seems like once ivf was settled on and how it just came up and suddenly you were in treatments and getting ready for pickup and now transfer! The offer for plate breaking still stands, though hopefully you will no longer need it. I'm sure hubby is a little put off by the donor sperm, I hope he talks about it instead of letting it fester through a whole process and pregnancy. He probably wont think about it after baby arrives, but it can cause some really shaking rifts from what I've seen of these scenarios. I har my fx for you! When/where are tr meet-ups? If they arent too far I'll come when I can. :)
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Rest up! Can't wait to hear about that BFP in 2 weeks (or less!)
I have some very very very good feelings about those embies. They are just gorgeous.
I can see your smile from here.
Grow, Grow, Grow. xoxo
So glad everything went well, and that you are feeling good.
I'm home from the retrieval and resting pretty comfortably as well. We managed to get 18 eggs, so now I just have to wait for tomorrow's call to find out how many fertilized.
I'll be thinking of you, and sending sweet, growing thoughts to your embryos.
I'm glad that everything went well. It sounds like you had good embies to transfer, and I hope you've got a couple of extras that make it to freeze! For now - you're PUPO! Enjoy the couch - I hope that you've got some good books or engrossing TV!
I was very glad to read that the transfer went well yesterday, Foxy. It's obviously the easier part, compared to the retrieval. And now we wait, you and I. It is driving me nuts already. But let's not think about that now. You're PUPO!!! YEAH!
Congratulations :)) Happy resting and look after yourself xoxo
Hope this cycle is it for you! Although my situation is very different from yours, I'm single with a child via donor embryo, I couldn't possibly love my daughter more if she came from my own eggs. I am so wildly, madly in love with this particular little girl, that I'm glad things happened exactly the way they did. It was a hard journey to motherhood, but she's worth all of it.
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