She said, "Don't ever do anything once for a man that you don't intend to do for him the rest of your life."
It was really good advice, really. It has worked out incredibly well for me, although I think I also lucked out with ML who is awesome about sharing chores and is actually much cleaner than I am. Someday I will give the same advice to my daughter (or my son's little girlfriends.)
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ML and I were on our way to a wedding a few years ago. We were listening to the radio and a report came on about the secret of long happy marriages.
The researches who conducted the study theorized that the secret was shared housework, or secure finances. To their surprise, they discovered that the common thread among the happiest longest married couples was this: A husband who immediately and enthusiastically agreed with his wife.
It is such simple advice. And for the past few years ML has lived it. He doesn't agree on everything, but when he does it is immediate and enthusiastic, and I love it. I never would have guessed that his responses could mean so much to me, but they do, and they create a wonderfully positive feedback loop of communication.
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I am two dpo from my very first chance at actually being pregnant. Feeling good. Feeling positive. Maybe a little worried about multiples, but so ready. I've been doing the Circle Bloom meditations, and really think that they are helping me stay calm and positive. ML keeps looking at me with that little sparkle in his eye. I feel like everything is happening just as it needs to.
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You're right! That is extremely good advice...I'm going to have to remember that one!
And, I love that happy marriage research, too! We're not so great on the shared housework (or housework in general, really) or the secure finances....but, the Hubby is good at wholeheartedly agreeing-- when he agrees that is. He's also good at wholeheartedly disagreeing when that's what's called for. But, I actually think that's another secret of a happy marriage.
I digress...I' so glad you're feeling good and at peace with the cycle! I hope that the first is all it takes! Fingers crossed and lots of ((((HUGS))))
Great news, Foxy. You sound light and hopeful. I hope there is a great birthday present coming your way this year.
sending hugs.
I am so praying those spermy go find an eggy and make magic happen :)
great advice....seriously, so simple but it makes all the difference doesn't it??
Holding HOPE for you today....lots of LUCK for this cycle sweetie. :)
xo
I love how upbeat you are! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you this cycle!
Awww. That is so right. It does help! I am glad that you are liking the circle Bloom, and hope it really does help you. Fingers crossed for an awesome cycle.
Awesome post...I will be looking into this Circle Bloom. Maybe I'll use it for my upcoming IUI. :-)
I had been meaning to listen to those free C & B meditations on their site. I'm very curious if it would help me!
Hope your 2ww goes smoothly and quickly!
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