If you're brave to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.
We are saying goodbye to the dream of having a family who shares our genetics.
It is a loss unlike any we have ever experienced.
It is a choice I thought we could never make.
It will be different.
Different than we expected.
We will have a family.
Our love is unconditional.
We will navigate this new path with love and peace and patience.
Life will reward us with a new hello.
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Again, I'm so sorry, Foxy. This must be such a difficult time, such a difficult goodbye. The idea of the "new hello" is beautiful though.
Wishing you the best.....may you be blessed with a new kind of happiness that you never expected, but will always thank God for. Hugs.
It is a tough decision. We are still wavering around if we want to do IVF again vs adoption (even though we have an IVF scheduled). It is so hard to let go of the genetics. Wishing you all the best.
When this loss is so fresh, so raw, it feels like your other options will always be "second best", a consolation prize.
Give yourself time to say good-bye, to grieve your loss. Letting go of the idea of biological children is painful...
But remember, there is a new hello waiting for you, when you are ready.
What a beautiful way to look at it. I am wishing you nothing but the best. My husband and myself had to make this same decision. It was hard, very hard but we knew that someday would have our own family. And you will too.
foxy, I am so sorry. DH & I have been down that same path...the uncertainty, the sperm analysis, the fna mapping, the dead end results. Somehow you will find the strength to pick up the pieces. Allow yourselves time to grieve the loss of your DH's biological children.
We eventually moved on with donor sperm IUI's - 6 to be exact. All of them failed. We finally made the decision to do donor sperm IVF this summer. I am currently pregnant with twins, and we couldn't be happier. The loss we felt has been replaced with joy and hope for the future. I hope you find the same happiness soon too. I know you will.
You will have a family and you will be great parents. Praying for peace for you right now!
It is a great loss and I am sorry you are dealing with it. From experience when you are holding that bundle genetic or not, your heart will just burst with so much love you never you knew you had. I am hoping your new Hello is just around the corner.
I followed you over from Apryl's blog. My husband and I are dealing with the same thing. I am definitely following you from here on out. I pray you will have your 'someday' twins (or triplets, or even just one...but I know you'll be blessed either way!)
Clearly, your heart is so incredibly open that you have already turned a corner and *know* that the awful news about your ML's sperm does not mean you will be denied a family. You are a strong woman, Foxy. I am full of admiration for you and how courageously you live your life.
YES! Saying goodbye can only mean that there will be hellos in the future. I think that's a beautiful quote and can help us all tremendously to keep going forward and not become halted indefinitely in our pain.
Thanks so much for the sweet and thoughtful comment you left on my blog on the weekend. Your friendship means a lot to me, Foxy. I feel like we so easily understand one another. It's a blessing I really cherish.
It is a really tough decision and a great loss that should be morned. I also can tell you from experience that once you guys are holding your child, the child that is in your life because of your love biology won't mean a thing.
Have you made the decision to adopt? Or to use donor sperm? I know how hard it is. But you will love whatever family you build, genetics aside, because YOU have created it. Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us.
oh my goodness-= this is a beautiful beautiful quote. I love it. LOVE IT! I swear, I need to get this framed. :)
loved this...brought those happy tears to my eyes.
GOOD LUCK..Please "OPEN....NEW DOOR" :)
Beautiful.
Good luck with your new hello.
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Love this post. It may be my new favorite quote...
Thanks for sharing it.
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I'm sorry for your loss, but also excited for you that you're ready to move forward. I hope that a beautiful new Hello is just around the corner for you.
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Here from Creme. What a beautiful saying and a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing this. Thank you for sharing your devastating loss and your hope for the future. Both need to be honored and you did so very eloquently in this post. I hope your family finds its way to you soon. Your children are very luck indeed.
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This is beautifully written. And, even though I checked out your recent posts and see that you are back to trying IVF, I know that no matter how it happens, you will become a mom. You have strength. I can tell from just a few posts.
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